Relaxing into a new way of Being...( see Louise LeBrun www.wel-systems.com )
I carry these words with me throughout my days lately.
As a man, who is a seeker, engaged and willing to find out more about who it is possible for me to "discover" (not become)I already am?!
With all of my formal education and boyhood and male hood experiences propping me up to the present day Man I have become, I struggle with knowing that there is a different way of achieving what I hold to be truly important to me.
The dense walls of dogma, social rules and etiquette, and good boy beliefs, values, and attitudes that have shaped me to this day need to be "reviewed and revised" if I am to move through my world differently! If I am to move through my world in a way that will have me achieving the results I actually want for myself, my children, those I love...I know that paying attention to the signals that move through me, and stopping... long enough to "hear, feel, sense" them, will be much more effective and efficient...I do not want to wake up 10 years from now, sensing the same level of tension, urgency, and thinking that it is the same stuff I had felt so long ago...without having done something to allow it to resolve itself....
It is important to realize that we men are made up of pretty much all the same hardwiring that women are!
Hence, we have at least a similar capacity to "feel", think, process, see, taste, as all other human beings.
I believe that the quality of our lives on this earthly plane is directly tied to how much we pay attention to all of our "faculties" rather than overriding all others with the thinking mind!
In my many years in the fields of addiction and social services, as well as my own personal "fun" years of struggle and toil, I have come to beleive that our "thinking minds" are often not our best friends and advocates!
Yet, we are left not knowing what else is available to us, mostly because of childhood trauma and social expectations about the "rules about being male".
My brothers, it is possible. It is within our reach to sense things at the deepest possible level, and to allow ourselves the present moment, 'til there is a clear sense that "something" has changed, moved, happended, even without our needing to be clear about it! I have lived it, and continue to pay attention to that kind of focused awareness, all-the-while, doing what needs to get done!
I would venture to say that you already know about the deep level conversations you have with yourself about who you are, and that, like me, you have simply dismissed them as unacceptable, or too much to handle, or something else...but have you noticed yourself having them? We all do (have those conversations within us). Start or continue paying attention to them, and give them the credit they deserve, as guides from within, and open up to what they might have to say about who you might be in the moment you are having those "thoughts"...What would happen if you acknowledged those "signals" as simple information about where you are at in the moment? What would happen if you were to allow yourself to share your thoughts or struggle about your thoughts with someone you really trust? How would your life be different?
Thinking about information is one thing; but thinking about how you think is a whole other matter and one which I beleive demands our attention if we are to grow, and produce results that matter to us.
creating at the rhythm of my breath,
RAY